I made the terrible mistake of sending a rather harsh email to a Buddhist friend regarding a serious issue, and now have to bear with the consequences of my action. I was labeled "rude", "ungrateful", and "disrespectful".
I realize that I should have made the initiative to at least clarify with him regarding the situation, before actually launching into the full blown email attack.
However, the damage has been done. I'm sure that my actions have somehow marred his perception of our group as a whole. Yes, it isn't fair, but life is like that.
I only hope that I will be able to mend this friendship with him, so that our endeavours may continue in future.
As for now, I know I screwed up, and I screwed up big. Emails are dangerous, especially when either party responds emotionally to the message. Not everyone can be detached and professional about the emails they receive. Words on the screen can mean so many different things to different people. Body language, voice tone and pitch, facial expressions - all these are missing from emails. Their absence makes it hard for the reader to truly understand the intentions of the sender.
My lapse of judgment may have jeapordized our bonds with this Buddhist friend. However, I will do my absolute best to mend this broken bridge.
Friday, October 06, 2006
When emails cause more problems than they solve
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...ignore it la. its just him being him. and we are just trying so hard to please everyone. of course, we are not up to the level yet. but we are not even trying to please everyone. we just have to live our life - do good avoid evil purify mind, if all of us do the same then there leaves no place for getting angry over a small matter - email! tht buddhist fren should be smart enuff to understand that its just a small matter. otherwise tht fella is not so buddhist isnt it. keeping tht grudge in him. wakakaz. cheer up dear fren. a simple apology will do...
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